Paula LaMar Celebrated!

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If you hadn’t heard by now, March is Women’s Month. So this month I will highlight those women in my life who have inspired me to keep going when I didn’t want to. Many have been silent encouragers and didn’t even know it. First up is Paula LaMar!

Paula R. LaMar, 41, is a native of Long Island NY, the second oldest out of six siblings, and at an early age endured hardships such as homelessness, sexual abuse, incest, being a runaway teen constantly fighting in school and on the streets of New York, and running from the cops at 14 for stabbing a girl. She went from a traumatic abusive home in New York to a father who was strung out on crack cocaine in Atlanta, GA. Her father kicked her out on the streets at 15 and it lead her to live a wild and reckless life as a teen. Pregnant at sixteen and a high school dropout with a third grade reading comprehension with a speech impediment with no desire for education because the mind was numb. Paula suffered Domestic Abuse at the hand of men. Paula tried to silence the pain with drugs, alcohol, promiscuity, clubs, and eventually suicide attempts. Being diagnosed with cancer, HIV, and syphilis, the doctors told her the syphilis had set in her body too long and it would cause her to lose her sight and hearing, not knowing the bacterial disease could eventually kill her. THE TURN..things started to turn for her! She was healed of all THREE diseases, received her GED, went on to college, raised two children as a single mom, pursued her dreams of creating for Broadway, authored a book, became a Transformational Speaker, and built a Global Organization that empowers women. She mentors several business owners and is successfully married. She is paving the way for women young and old.

Today I salute Paula R. LaMar for her determination, strong will, servant leadership, and being a GAME CHANGER. Thank you for all you do!

5 Tips To Loving Yourself!



L.O.V.E. four simple letters that spell one complicated word! Then you through yourself into the equation and there’s a big bag of mess!

Life throws us so many curve balls and often times we just don’t know how to handle them. So instead of embracing and following the curve, we allow the curve to knock us over. This causes us to look at ourselves and think the worst! We begin to think all these horrible things about us and not like who we were created to be. These thoughts cause our self-esteem to drop and life looks grim.

So today I want to offer you 5 tips to follow the curve and continue to love yourself despite what comes your way!

1. Forgive Yourself! Yes you made a mistake, so what?! We all make mistakes and those mistakes are for us to learn from, not go into a shell like a turtle. Your mistake(s) not only help you, but they help the next person who you will encounter who is dealing with the same thing.

2. Accept Your Difference! You weren’t put here to be a duplicate. You were put here to stand out and fly like an eagle. If your style doesn’t match the next person, that is perfect! You are here to reach those who like what you have to offer, the way you offer it.

3. Be Transparent! Too often we are afraid to be open with the trials and tribulations we have experienced in life. So what you slept around or cheated or have gotten a divorce! Those experiences are what equipped you to become the person you are and prepared you to reach your destiny. Tell your story!

4. Affirm Yourself! Why is it we worry about what others have to say about us? Why do we care? You should wake up every morning speaking nothing but good things over your life and about you. You’re going to have those who don’t like it and you should send them to read this article! Clearly they don’t love themselves enough to uplift you, but tear you down in order for them to have a false sense of love about themselves.

5. Journal! Journaling allows you to release those feelings you have been holding in. It gives you such a release and freedom that many won’t tell you about. No longer do you have to hold it in, you can write about it every day and hey if it gets to be a bigger load than you can bear and it’s not helping, I do suggest a counselor and/or therapist. Either way, you have to let go of negative weights in your life.

By following these easy, but beneficial steps, you will be on your way to a happier, more emotionally healthier life that will ultimately allow you to TRULY loving yourself!

Much love,